Bhanu... you know.. my affection towards you not at all influenced by lust...

She laughed.. nice, innocent laugh..

hmmn... you are philosophical nowadays.. some nut is loose some where..

She left to kitchen... I noticed the slight glare of happiness in the corners of her eyes...

I believed that everything in human life is one or other variation of one feeling... selfishness

hmmn... may be this girl is proving me wrong..

I was thinking... bhaanu's all actions have a touch of innocence...

bhanumathi... the name looked odd when I met her first time..

Snegithane... Snegithane... humming coming out from kitchen...

It didn’t have any resemblance to the original song... still I loved to hear that...

She sings like a kid...

Da... come here for a moment...

I went to kitchen.. suddenly she hugged me and buried her face on my shoulder..
Her eyes were watery .. da.. you know... this is the most valuable thing in my life... A shoulder where I can put all my problems...

Hmmn... this idiot also can be philosophical.. I laughed...

Love is a feeling of necessity... reproduction... love is the the fuel for engine of reproduction and propagation of hierarchy

Shoooo ... shut up!!!.. the book selfish gene... that really went in to your brain..., she kept finger on her lips...

Hmmn... I have to lock the book shelf and keep the key with me...

Earlier I tried to make a list of things that she values most in life.. I felt it is funny... but later I realized those are important

Sachin..., is the issue fixed? Sound of my manager wake me up...

Ha.. it is fixed and checked in .. I came to the real world.. it is 3 AM in the morning..

Outside it is snowing.. Some vehicles are still there on the road with yellow eyes..

The city never sleeps..

Blurred view of the city.. just like my life...

Kaleidoscope Of My Childhood

Jasmine

My nephew "Mammu" came by running.

His sister pathu is following him.

They held my hands and we started walking home.

Mammu showed a scale, with pictures of Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck. A glowing one, which change the picture when you bend it.

"A scale with Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck …."

My memories went back to my childhood.

Jasmine,

Her face was like jasmine, so white and transparent. You can see the blue veins in her neck. I noticed her on my first day in Madrasa (school where they teach religious rules). She was beautiful.

"Eeman Kayrangal ethra (What are the basic principles of Islam?)", Kunhalavi muslyar (Teachers in Madrasa are called as muslyar with respect) banged his cane on the table and asked. He looked around at all the students. This is a lesson in previous year, we supposed to know the answer.

Darkness in student's face moved with the movement of his eyes.

I have joined that Madrasa after moving to my mother's place. Kunhalavi muslyar started asking the question one by one… Those who don't know the answer should stand. They are not allowed to sit.

Rows of students standing grew as a snake's tail. Glow in muslyar's eyes also grew proportionally.

My turn came.

"Six Sir" I answered.

What are they?

I recited the answer like a poem.

The Muslyar was not happy as the answer was correct.

"Hmmm... sit down."

I sat down. Yes!!! Those eyes looked at me, I smiled.

Kunhalavi muslyar started his punishment from one side.

Each student should show his hand straight, and then he will beat 2 times with his cane.

I was looking at Jasmine. Those white hands are shown straight… Red lines of cane mark came in to my mind… I saw the fear in her eyes. Hmmn I can feel the pain.

Jasmine's turn came..

Then the miracle happened. Kunhalavi muslyar didn't beat Jasmine. He asked her to sit.

I felt happy… But, why? Rebel inside me started asking... Why?

I stand up and shouted... "This is wrong".

His face turned red, eyes widened in disbelief

"Hmmn… what is your problem? Show your hands"

I showed my hands, he beat twice.

I didn't feel the pain. I felt the admiring look in other student's eyes.

I felt the admiring look in those beautiful eyes.

Next day Jasmine came with a 30 CM scale. In the corridor of Madrasa, when nobody was noticing, she gave it to me.

A scale with pictures of Miki mouse and Donald Duck.

Picture change when you bend it.

In the class, I was holding the scale... Looking at it, smelling it… I owned something like that for the first time in my life.

I raised my head and looked her. She was smiling.

Next week we exchanged name slips. Friendship blossomed.

She gave gifts when ever her father comes to India. I did not have anything great to give her. I gave her "Balarama"(A famous child magazine) and name slips.

Later I moved to my father's place. Memories faded away.

ഒരു കവിത ജനിക്കുന്നത്

Modern Horoscope for Marriage Matching

I was thinking to write on this subject for long time. India is the land of arranged marriages. I know the pattern is changing in urban areas. Still majority of Indian marriages, as in my case, happens in arranged way. Traditionally when the boy or girl from the family attain the age for marriage, families will start looking for proposals from families of opposite kind. Among Hindus traditionally horoscope matching will be checked before proceeding with any proposal.

Here I am not willing to have a discussion on system of traditional horoscope. Here I like to present a different kind of horoscope which suits current generation and lifestyle. Along with all traditional things that you check, following things also you should check,

1. STD (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)
   
2. Check for impotency
   
3. Blood group matching
   

I know you got annoyed… What is this bull shit? How decent family can go and ask all these? Eh?

"Don't try to speak nonsense…"

"Ok, Ok cool down…"

I like to tell you, this is not at all nonsense. Let us discuss one by one. If you really love your son or daughter, you should check these.

STD (Sexually transmitted diseases)

HIV

I like to put this point at first, because it is the most important. I think AIDS is the most dreaded disease in our society. Still in our villages, if people come to know about infected person, they out cast him. It is cruel for one partner to pass on the disease to another after marriage. Imagine that you married your daughter to a person who is HIV positive. Then that innocent girl's life will get spoiled. All those dreams of an average Indian girl to raise a small family will be shattered. In this modern era where premarital sex is spreading, reverse case also possible. There is lot of arguments against the move of making HIV test mandatory before marriage. Human rights organizations are against it because they feel it is intrusion to one person's privacy. But I feel that no HIV+ person have right to hide that information and marry.

How decent people can ask HIV test reports to another family? I know it is difficult. I also not asked these details before my marriage. But at least I will not feel offended if somebody ask my family all these details before any marriage proposal. Let us make the difference slowly. At government level, they can enact a legislation to strengthen social awareness on this.

Hepatitis B

First itself I will tell you that there is no risk in marrying a hepatitis B infected partner. But if one of you infected, get the other one immunized with vaccine. This disease caused by hepatitis B virus. The acute illness causes liver inflammation, vomiting, jaundice and—rarely—death. Transmission of hepatitis B virus results from exposure to infectious blood or body fluids containing blood. Possible forms of transmission unprotected sexual contact, blood transfusions, re-use of contaminated needles & syringes, and vertical transmission from mother to child during childbirth etc. So if you are infected don't hide that info and get your partner immunized. Hmmn.. J You can do it after marriage also.

Impotency check

This is also very important thing to check before marriage. Recently I read an article about movement for this purpose initiated by yesteryear Tamil actress Manorama. She is campaigning against people marrying with knowledge of their impotency or HIV status. I like to quote her story about a family friend

""Be it man or woman, both of them must go through vivid check-up prior to their marriage and get certified that they're physically all right. Because, I have witnessed one of my close friend filmmaker's daughter suffering a lot since her husband is an impotent. As well, my close relative's daughter has also gone through the same problem. I am going to travel across Tamil Nadu for the signature campaign and get at the least of 1Crore signature from the people. Also I have approached Chief Minister M. Karunanidhi and his son deputy CM M.K. Stalin about this and I will accomplish with my mission before I breathe my last."

So what you feel? Hmmn … I felt it is important. I know there is lot of people criticizing this movement. I read few discussion forums also. 80% of the criticism come from the so called male ego J.

Blood Group Matching

First I will explain the funda behind blood grouping. There are 3 things that decide our blood group.

1. Antigen type.
   
2. Antibody type
   
3. Rh type
   

There are 2 types of antigen and antibody. A and B, J pretty simple, right? Below is a table explaining how the blood group is decided.

Blood Group	A antigen	B antigen	A antibody	B antibody	Rh factor
A+	X	O	O	X	X
B+	O	X	X	O	X
AB+	X	X	O	O	X
O+	O	O	X	X	X
A-	X	O	X	O	O
B-	O	X	X	O	O
AB-	X	X	O	O	O
O-	O	0	X	X	O

If blood containing some antigen mix with blood containing antibody, it causes reaction and leads to problem. Similarly if Rh+ group blood mixes with Rh- it causes reaction. Ok, Ok, How it matters in the case of marriage? I will explain,

Again, this is not a criterion for deciding whom you marry. But all people who are going to marry should be aware about this problem. If the Rh factor of mother's blood group is negative and father's blood group is positive, then there is high chance of the child being Rh positive blood group. So during pregnancy mother develops the antibodies against the baby's blood positive blood group. Usually during first pregnancy this will not cause problem. But during second pregnancy mother's body will be already having antibody for + blood developed during first pregnancy. This may leads to complications that need serious attention. Baby may develop jaundice at birth. Possibilities are high to get still born if we ignore this problem.

Nowadays in hospitals after delivery they check for this complication and give treatment to remove antibodies developed during first pregnancy. Still… be aware of this problem.

10 WAYS TO REDUCE WEIGHT FOR IT PROFESSIONALS

First of all, I am not a body builder. hmmn... I am little over weight also...This article is a result of my internet based research...I started my research by keeping the following things in my mind,

1. For me it will not be possible to go to gym everyday
2. As I am travelling frequently I can’t control my diet beyond some limit
3. I can’t fast.. When I feel to eat, I have to eat
4. In a week, at least 3 days it may be possible to find out one hour to do some workout
5. Instead of building body, my aim was keep the body weight under control and be healthy..

Eat Dinner Early

I am working with Samsung. I often visit South Korea. Here I observed one thing. People are healthy. Very rarely you will find an overweight person here. I visited the Samsung HQ canteen. The menu I found there also has high calorie items. Then how they are keeping their body weight and body shape?

The key is "EAT DINNER EARLY". Here people eat dinner at 6:30 PM. As per WHO (World Health Organization) this is the best time to have dinner. When you eat dinner early, most of the calories will be consumed before you sleep. So it avoids conversion of all calories in to fat and storing it in your liver and other part of the body.

You may find it difficult to sleep without having food just before that. Eat an apple or some fruits before going to bed. Half glass of milk also will do.

In our olden days when there was no electricity, people used to eat dinner before sunset. Those days’ people used to be healthy. Even all birds in nature stop eating before sunset.

Don’t go to lunch and dinner with hunger

When the glucose count in your blood goes low, you will feel hungry. Once you eat something, it will take 20 minutes to reach the blood. Within those 20 minutes you will eat enough to survive for one year. SO WHAT TO DO? When you feel hungry before lunch or dinner, eat some fruit like Orange or watermelon which is rich in fiber and having fructose content. Fructose will be absorbed in to blood and you will feel energetic...After 10-20 minutes, you can go for lunch or dinner. Now you will not feel that killing hunger and you can control the amount of food.

1/3 Policy

Prophet Mohammed told "Eat in such a way that, you fill 1/3 of your stomach with food, 1/3 with water and 1/3 leave for air". If anybody follows this I think he will never get any health problem in his life.

I know you can’t eat like this. But at least avoid loosening your belt or unzipping your pant after food. Stop when you feel that you ate enough. Don’t eat further due to taste. If you can control urge to eat further for 5 min, you will not feel to eat after that. You will feel good and avoid all stomach problems.

Find out some way to work out that you enjoy

This is very important. I saw so many people including me who join gym with lot of enthusiasm. After few days level of enthusiasm fades away and they stops.

The best way is find out some game that you enjoy. I enjoy playing badminton. Earlier I used to play regularly. But when I started my job, I rarely played any game. Now I am trying to find some time, so that I can play badminton. Pull your loved one to the game. Then you will enjoy it and you will be looking forward for all these game sessions.

Don’t diet rigorously

This is my experience. If I diet rigorously for one day, then next day I will develop craving for food and I eat like Bhīma for next two days. So avoid it. Eat small amount more times.

Lunch with mutton or chicken

If you are a hard core non-vegetarian, eat non-veg only during lunch. Non-veg food for dinner will be more harmful. While you are sleeping all those chicken or mutton fat will happily go and sit around your belly. Morning you can get satisfied with your lovely love handle :) So avoid non-veg during dinner. Try to use grilled meat instead of fried one.

Reduce your petrol bill; you will reduce your weight also.

When you are going to the nearby shop, don’t take your vehicle. Just walk that distance. When you want to go somewhere within 1KM, go by walk.

Don’t buy. Then you will not eat

Have a look at your list for purchase before going to super market. Ok, first you make a list of all things that you want to purchase. Make a big list. Add some chocolates, add some pastries.

Then sit on that bean bag. Cut all possible high calorie items. I ensure you, you will feel happy after the purchase. Like your weight your bill also will reduce. If we don’t have immediate access to all those chats and packed snacks, then we will not eat.

Is it white? I don’t like it. I will eat color full food to make my life colorful

Al most all harmful food comes in white color. See the list below ranked from first onwards

1. Salt (Salt is more dangerous than sugar. No other species adds salt to its food)

2. Sugar

3. White rice.

:) Now u know the list (Make a list of white food that you eat and find out substitutes for those)

See… all those animals are surviving without adding spice and salt to their food, still they are healthy. In South Korea, they avoid salt and sugar in food as much as possible. They include green leaves, carrot and other natural colorful food items in their food. That is also one secret of their health.

Do little accounting

Write down what you ate every day. You might have heard it already. Believe me..It works..

Write everything, then you will be wondered how much you are eating..Then try to cut some high calorie items slowly.

If you are crazy about chocolates... make it yourself... buy some nuts and dry fruits, boil little chocolate and put lot of dry fruits in this. Keep it in fridge. It will help you to avoid that high calorie chocolate bar.